Monday, May 15, 2006

Relations... Life...Decisions

I saw Koffee with Karan... Kajol and Sharukh episode again...
In that there was a conversation going on.. about Kajol... where she goes out with her friends.. and Ajay Devagan is happy with his friends.... And they dont interfere with each other's social life... Seems very good... but is such a thing really possible...

Once u r a couple, dont u blend in with each other's life... when u say life doesn't include their social life too... Well may be one gets answers to these questions only after going through this face...

Now, in the same way decisions have to be mutual... but is it that every decision of urs needs the other person's opinion/permission...

Now all these depend on the 2 people in relationship and noway can this be generalized

Well y think about all this.. as they say "Jo hoga dekha jaayega"

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

B4 they tie a knot they obviously have diff social circles. In todays world, both of them understand this and they do give space for indivial social circles.

Art said...

Anon, Thank u for the comment.. but it would be nice if u could leave ur name too...

Givng space is different from getting involved in each other's social circles..

ss said...

Its a simple relationship which appears complex but then giving space is what requires real faith. Even after being a couple each one requires ones personal space. And being no it doesnt require to seek the opinion of the other half in all the matters. But if one does consult it shows the faith. And you are right! Whateva! Jo bhi hoga dekha jayega!! :o))

Animesh said...

a very valid and relevant point raised here...it's not just about giving each other private space or trust...in my humble opinion, it is about the breathing space that each and every individual needs for survival...agreed that humans are social(highly) animals but first and foremost, we have our own self, our own identity that we can't part with...that uniquely defines each one of us....definitely you dont want your partner to be known as just your partner...he/she needs to have a disctinct identity...imagine two partners with the same likes/dislikes, friends, preferences etc in life...won't such a relationship be boring (might eventually lead to its immature death)...we like/admire someone because there is something special in him/her that is not a part of our personna...and to keep that alive, that 'breathing space' is needed else the relationship will start gasping for breath...

Sujit said...

Good point! and the opinion varies from person to person.. and its mostly local to the persons involved.!! the last sentence is the best things :)..

Art said...

Sonal,
Well.. dunno if it appears complex or is complex or we make it complex :)
One surely requires the personal space.. but is it that.. we dont get involved in each others life

Animesh,
hmm...thats true.. we need to maintain the identity even after we are in a relationship.. but being a part of your partner's social life doesnt mean that you are losing identity....
The ideal thing to do is give each other ample space so that if they want to be involved or not they can do it without much of thinking...

Sujit,
Ofcourse it varies from person to person :)

Unknown said...

Yes - Last line is what I agree with. Over analysis can kill simplicity and common sense.
Cheers.

Art said...

Srinivas,
:)
May be certain things arent so simle :)

Alapana said...

I got this line from my hubby when i met him first time "Getting married to me is not about changing your life,your friends,your relationships,your life style,its just adding another person and at the same time remembering that from now this relation becomes very imp." and yes,i think it all depends on situations,act acc. to it,and rest,leave it to time:)

Alapana said...

By the way my dear,the last post abt bread sweet made me laugh:) its called Double ka meeta,a famous sweet dish from Hyderabad:) Not so simple to make,right quantity of everything sure makes it very delicious.

Art said...

Alapana,
ya.. i think the best is to leave it to time.. but when the time comes.. u surely need to think about it :)
And for the sweet.. ya I knew that name.. my roomie is from Hyderabad :)

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